It is often very difficult or impossible to control external circumstances, but it is in our hands to control ourselves.
You are driving a car and suddenly it rains, the windshield glass of the car is foggy. You turn on the wipers, but the wipers don't work. It happens that when you are driving a car in the dark night, the car's headlights suddenly turn off.
Also consider this scenario:
A car's brakes do not work well when the car is driving on a downhill slope. When such circumstances arise, travel becomes dangerous and even life is at risk. This is about the situation that may arise while driving a car, but if we talk about the daily journey of our life, whether we like it or not, some unpleasant situation or challenge comes at any turn, there is a time to face some problems, difficulties.
We cannot control bad weather or other adverse conditions while driving a car. We cannot stop the sudden onset of heavy rain. In the same way, if the roots of our thoughts and feelings are not strengthened, there is every possibility that life will go up in storm.
We cannot control the environment in the same way we cannot control the situation, circumstances or people around us, but it is in our hands to control ourselves. Controlling one's thoughts and emotions is an extremely important aspect of maintaining our overall well-being and leading a balanced and fulfilling life.
Here the question arises that why is it necessary to have some level of control over thoughts and feelings? Well, first of all it is important to understand that uncontrolled and negative thoughts can lead to stress, anxiety and depression.
Neglecting mental disorders such as stress and depression can sometimes lead to undesirable consequences. It is said that for a happy life just replace negative thoughts and emotions with positive thoughts and emotions.
It may seem difficult at first, but by gaining control over the thoughts and feelings that have developed negative thinking patterns, we can reduce and eliminate the impact of negative thinking. Such a process is tantamount to promoting positive, mental and emotional well-being.
A state of indecision is often created whether to do this or that. It is well known that our thoughts and feelings play an important role in our decision making process. When we gain control over our thoughts and emotions we can make more rational and objective decisions rather than being swayed by impulse or irrational reactions.
The great Indian cricketer M. S. Dhoni who takes decisions by controlling his thoughts and emotions is not called Captain Kool Amasto! Our thoughts and emotions have a strong influence on the way we communicate with others, exchange ideas. Controlling negative thoughts and controlling emotions play an important role in developing healthy relationships, effective communication, and responding constructively to conflict situations. Have you ever used a microscope – a magnifying glass? If you keep such a glass on a piece of paper in the sun for some time, the paper burns.
Focus is important here. By using the skill of control, we can direct our thoughts and emotions in a specific direction and focus on a meaningful goal, thereby increasing productivity, improving performance. Focus-concentration is of prime importance because it is a seamless gateway to all thinking, such as our perspective, memory, learning ability, reasoning ability, problem-solving skills, and decision-making skills.
By gaining control over thoughts and emotions and cultivating good concentration, we can achieve definite results by effectively working on all aspects of our thinking ability. The summary of all this discussion is that if you can effectively focus-concentrate, you can think successfully and take the right actions for brighter results.
