Question: I am a 28 year old unmarried girl. Even though I am of marriageable age, my family is not interested in getting me married because I am the only one working at home and taking care of the household expenses. Family members have got a habit of not depending on my earnings. For this reason, even if a relative shows me an idol worthy of me, they do not pay attention to it. This causes me a lot of tension. Do I have to be celibate for life? How can I solve this problem?
A Girl (Ahmedabad)
Answer: Your problem is understandable. On one hand you are worried about the maintenance and happiness of the whole family and on the other hand your personal life and desire to get married. If you want to get married, sit down with the family once and express your wish. Only if you express your desire, the family will understand the seriousness of this matter and start making concrete efforts in this direction.
It is possible that they are avoiding your marriage because you are the sole earner in the family...but what is the point? Are all the elders in your family and you are the only one who can work or there are people in the family who can work but they have a habit of restricting your earnings? If you are the only person in your family who can work, the solution to this situation is not to keep you single for life.
If you understandably don't want to get married then it's different but if you want to get married then you need to find a character who understands your responsibilities well and doesn't mind if you want to shoulder the financial responsibility of your family even after marriage. have If there are people in your family who are able to work but are taking a hard look at your money because of your ongoing job, then you don't need to worry about the family. They are probably more interested in their comfort than your life. When you are not, they will automatically try to earn. May you live your favorite life and get married at your favorite place. If you want to get married and find an idol, you can take the help of a reputable marriage bureau or a website.
Question: I am a 22 year old girl. When I was 19 years old, I got married to a young man who studied with me while studying. Due to this my studies were also left incomplete. My parents did not agree with this hasty decision, but I got married without taking their advice. I became a mother within one year of marriage. Now my husband fights with me everyday and regrets my decision. Is my decision to divorce the right one?
A Girl (Surat)
Answer: The young generation takes a blind decision in love without understanding and later regrets it and it leads to divorce. Such cases are often heard. Once you have made a mistake. Don't repeat that mistake again. Try to strengthen your relationship by looking back on the past.
Time needs to be given to make married life happy. Apart from this, you need to think about the future of your children. If even after trying so hard you feel that you can't live with your husband anymore, instead of panicking, first contact your parents and tell them about your situation.
Most of the time wise parents support their daughter in times of trouble. If you have parental support, first of all try to finish your studies and stand on your own feet. This way you will be able to move forward in life positively.
Question: I live in a joint family. I have a three-year-old daughter and as I am a working woman, my mother-in-law takes care of my daughter. My daughter is pampered a lot by my in-laws. Not being able to see her cry, my mother-in-law fulfills her every whim. I don't like this. I believe that if a child's habit is spoiled in childhood, it takes a long time to correct it. I try to discipline my daughter a bit. So she never comes to me. I don't know what to do in this situation.
a girl (botad)
Answer: Every mother's parenting style is different from each other. It is said that elders are very fond of their children and shower their love on them.
Now if you as a mother feel that your in-laws are spoiling them by pampering them too much then you should try to explain your approach lovingly instead of giving instructions in authoritative words. You have mentioned that you are a working mother, so it is natural that your daughter spends more time with your in-laws, so her bonding with them is special. You don't need to get angry or upset because of this. You need to think positively about this. You need to understand that only when they take care of your daughter can you focus on your career properly. If your parents-in-law did not take responsibility for your daughter, it would be very difficult for you to take care of your daughter along with work and you might even have to hand her over to someone else. In this situation you will be worried about it all day long.
If you want your bond with your daughter to be strong, spend as much time with your daughter as possible. In addition to discipline, love him. Take him for a walk. Play with it. She is still too young to understand that you are being strict with her for her own good. Work with skill, not force.
